There are just things I don’t do. I think once I realized that it was perfectly fine not to enjoy some things, my life became more joyful.
I used to feel guilty when I said yes to things I didn’t enjoy and guilty when I said no. Basically, I was feeling guilty all the time. That feeling had to end. Guilt can suck the life out of me like a teacher sucks the life out of a Dr. Pepper on a Friday of a four day week (because we all know that 4 day weeks are the longest. weeks. EVER).
So when I gave up doing things that made me feel guilty, I could actually do the things that I enjoy doing.
I don’t do outside of school staff functions. When my kids were younger and in day care, I couldn’t bear leave them with a sitter at night as well. As my kids grew, we were busy doing their things at night. Now? I have to recharge. Recharging for me is spending time with my family, a book or one of my current Netflix addictions.
I don’t do church committees. I have tried and they are not for me.
I don’t finish books. If I read 25 or 50 or even 100 pages and I am not captivated by the book, I just check it back in. I used to think if I started a book, I had to finish it. Turns out there is no law that says I must finish a book. Life is too short to read bad books.
I don’t run. I know plenty of people who are enamored with the high that running gives them. Fortunately, I came to my senses early on about this one. I don’t really enjoy all my parts shaking their groove things in different directions. Also, running was never easy for me. I had to be taught to run when I was 8 years old.
I don’t eat off brand meat. By off brand meat, I mean deer, pheasant, quail, buffalo, goose, or duck. I have eaten all of those things in my lifetime and some of them, like pheasant, I actually liked. I don’t like them enough to burn calories on them.
I don’t spend time with people who suck my energy. This was a tough one. When I realized that I had been teaching my kids to spend time with people who made them better people and I wasn’t walking that walk…OUCH. This one took a lot of time to work through. I had to say ‘no thank you’ to invitations, shift friend groups, join activities that did make me a better person–none of those things happened overnight.
None of these things happened overnight. I had to dig deep and find what worked for me. Just sayin’.